The comedian and actor spoke about her experience with rape and why she discusses it in her stand-up
Amy Schumer has opened up about her experience with sexual assault.
The comedian and actor stars in the new movie I Feel Pretty, which deals with body image issues. She made her breakthrough in 2015’s Trainwreck.
Appearing on Oprah Winfrey’s OWN channel, Schumer discussed what she calls “grey area” rape, and spoke about losing her virginity while she was asleep. “I used to bring it up in my stand-up to try and make people laugh while they learned,” she said. “When we hear about rape when we’re children, it’s about a guy popping out from a bush and some villain. They don’t say it’s probably gonna be a guy you know really well – it could be your husband, it could be your friend.”
She continued: “So you think when that happens to you, ‘Well, this isn’t someone I want to see rotting in a jail cell, but what he did to me was wrong. I didn’t consent.’ I lost my virginity when I was asleep and that’s not okay. So in my stand-up I would say, ‘If she’s asleep, that’s a no’, just hoping that a couple of guys would see that and then in that moment would be like, ‘This is a no, I heard that somewhere.'”
Discussing her specific experience, she explained that while she was “really angry” with her then-boyfriend for what he had done to her, she also “wanted to comfort him cos he felt so bad and was so worried.”
“People hear a woman say she was sexually assaulted and it’s, I think nine times out of 10, people’s first reaction to doubt the woman,” Schumer said. “It’s just something that men and women do. With the statistics – I think it’s one in six women who is sexually assaulted – those statistics don’t match up. If one in six of us is raped and you’re doubting all of us, where are the numbers matching up here?”
Asked by Winfrey how she defines what happened to her when she lost her virginity, Schumer responded: “I personally feel like I lost my virginity through rape. I didn’t consent, we hadn’t discussed it. We weren’t there in our relationship.” She also said it was a “deep betrayal” from someone she “really trusted”.
Earlier this year, Schumer responded to the sexual misconduct allegations against Aziz Ansari. “If you have a doctor that makes you uncomfortable, or you get a massage, or you have a date with someone and they coerce you in a situation like the Aziz [Ansari] one, I don’t think there’s any sort of criminal charge, but I think that it’s good for everybody to learn that that behaviour’s not acceptable,” she said.