"Peace, love, empathy"
The singer, model and activist was speaking to the Irish Independent about a new exhibition being curated by Kurt Cobain’s mother and sister, when she discussed the impact of losing her father and the legacy of his art.
“I really reverted into myself and really became obsessed with horror movies and comic books and drawing,” she said. “I defaced my room, all the walls and doors and ceiling. I defaced it.
“That was kind of me attempting to take back a sense of self, by creating my own environment I could go into every day and feel as though I was like in my own world, because oftentimes for me fantasy has felt more like reality. Escaping into my own head space has been more comforting than having to deal with my reality at times.”
She revealed that escaping into her own headspace also meant the abuse of substances, but she’s now enjoying sobriety having received messages of support of others in a similar position.
“The most gratifying thing about making that post was getting messages from people not only saying they understood and related to what I was going through, or they themselves were dealing with it,” Frances continued, “but the most powerful thing was people telling me that via that post and via me expressing that and having the capacity to share that with the world, that that had encouraged them to face their own addiction issues.”
Speaking of the “connectivity and compassion” that her situation inspired, Frances discussed why she often quoted her father’s suicide note with the words “peace, love, empathy”.
“Because I want to reclaim the peace, love, empathy thing as something that’s meant for health and for compassion and for true peace, love, and empathy,” she explained. “Yeah, the association comes from a super dark place. Referencing that is kind of screwed up but at the same time taking the power back is my way of dealing with it.”
Meanwhile, Frances has teased the official release of her own music. When a fan asked her on Instagram asked if she would ever release a full song, she replied concisely: “Oh yes.”
The 25-year-old was recently asked what her father would think of her music. She replied: “I don’t have an answer for that because I don’t want to speak on someone else’s behalf. I would hope that he would be proud of the human being I am even if he didn’t like the art I am putting out. That’s all I would ask of anyone in my life.”
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