Passion Pit frontman Michael Angelakos has thanked fans for their support after publicly announced that he is gay and speaking about his sexuality on author Bret Easton Ellis’ podcast.
Angelakos and his wife announced that they were divorcing in August, and Angelakos spoke to Ellis about his difficulties with coming out.
“I am saying something that I’ve never said before publicly,” Angelakos said, adding that he had told “very few people in my personal small circles because I don’t know how to talk about it”.
Discussing his relationship with his wife, Angelakos said: “I just wanted so badly to be straight, because I love her so much. I think that was one of the most painful things when we decided to separate.”
Angelakos said that his wife has been “incredible” since their split and had encouraged him to come out. “When I decided to really deal with it head on… she was the one who spearheaded it in a way… She said, ‘You need to figure out what’s going on with your sexuality because you can’t hate yourself any more.'”
The singer also claimed that he didn’t come out earlier because he never had any gay role models to look up to. “I didn’t see the powerful dude at the corner office of the Fortune 500 company, even though I didn’t aspire to be that, that guy wasn’t gay the way he was portrayed,” he said.
“So I just thought, well, if I become gay i’m never going to become any of these cool things that I keep wanting to be. And it was as though how much of myself can I edit so that I can be? And honestly that wasn’t a conscious decision, at least after a certain point, but certainly now I look back at it and I’m just like: well, how much would have been better if I’d just stopped caring?”
Angelakos later tweeted: “Everything’s going to be okay… I’ve received so many kind and supportive messages today. Thank you for reaching out and being so kind to me.”
Listen to the full interview below. Angelakos speaks about his sexuality at the 49 minute mark.