The ex-wife of late singer Scott Weiland has written a heartfelt open letter in which she documents her family’s broken relationship with the star and urges fans not to “glorify this tragedy” of his death.
Former Stone Temple Pilots and Velvet Revolver frontman Weiland was found dead on his tour bus in Minnesota last week (December 3). A cause of death has yet to be established. Weiland had long struggled with addiction and alcoholism.
Following Weiland’s passing, Mary Forsberg Weiland – who was married to Weiland from 2000-2007 – has penned an open letter, published by Rolling Stone.
She wrote: “December 3rd, 2015 is not the day Scott Weiland died. It is the official day the public will use to mourn him, and it was the last day he could be propped up in front of a microphone for the financial benefit or enjoyment of others. The outpouring of condolences and prayers offered to our children, Noah and Lucy, has been overwhelming, appreciated and even comforting. But the truth is, like so many other kids, they lost their father years ago. What they truly lost on December 3rd was hope.”
Forsberg added that while she doesn’t wish to “downplay Scott’s amazing talent… someone needs to step up and point out that yes, this will happen again – because as a society we almost encourage it.
“Many of these artists have children. Children with tears in their eyes, experiencing panic because their cries go unheard. You might ask, ‘How were we to know? We read that he loved spending time with his children and that he’d been drug-free for years!’ In reality, what you didn’t want to acknowledge was a paranoid man who couldn’t remember his own lyrics and who was only photographed with his children a handful of times in 15 years of fatherhood.”
The letter continues to allege that after Weiland remarried, their children were “replaced” and “never set foot into his house”.
“Over the last few years, I could hear his sadness and confusion when he’d call me late into the night, often crying about his inability to separate himself from negative people and bad choices. I won’t say he can rest now, or that he’s in a better place… We are angry and sad about this loss, but we are most devastated that he chose to give up.”
She then urges fans not to treat Weiland’s death as a rockstar tragedy but instead to take heed from his mistakes.
“If you’re a parent not giving your best effort, all anyone asks is that you try just a little harder and don’t give up. Progress, not perfection, is what your children are praying for. Our hope for Scott has died, but there is still hope for others,” she added.
“Let’s choose to make this the first time we don’t glorify this tragedy with talk of rock and roll and the demons that, by the way, don’t have to come with it. Skip the depressing T-shirt with 1967-2015 on it – use the money to take a kid to a ballgame or out for ice cream.”
Since his death, tributes have come in from musicians Weiland has worked with and those he inspired, including Ryan Adams, Krist Novoselic and Dave Navarro.
Stone Temple Pilots’ Dean DeLeo, Robert DeLeo and Eric Kretz paid tribute to their former frontman with a statement on Facebook, which read, “Let us start by saying thank you for sharing your life with us. Together we crafted a legacy of music that has given so many people happiness and great memories.
“The memories are many, and they run deep for us. We know amidst the good and the bad you struggled, time and time again. It’s what made you who you were. You were gifted beyond words, Scott. Part of that gift was part of your curse.
“With deep sorrow for you and your family, we are saddened to see you go. All of our love and respect. We will miss you brother.”